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I’m looking at all the insanity I see lately and wonder why people don’t just sit back, appreciate what they have and the people they have in their lives. Life is too short for the games! ..but maybe that is what youth is all about! lol
Grey, rainy days are great days to be self-employed… no distractions (sunshine) I can really focus on work. This will be an extremely productive day!
Had a great meeting with a Toastmasters buddy of mine. Love sharing ideas. He gave me some food for thought! Now to put it into action…
I’m off to do a reiki treatment then have a busy day with Mary Kay! Love this sunshine!
The tag line in an ad on TV, featuring Ellen DeGeneres, was something like, “inner beauty is nice but outer beauty is what is really important”. This being the total opposite of what we have always been told growing up. I loved the commercial because in addition to being funny, it really is so true. We still are drawn to attractive people first. Personality is important but unless we make the most of our first impression with new people we meet, often we won’t get a second chance.
Personality eventually trumps looks if we are given the time to display what we have to offer. People who maybe were less attractive to begin with, become more attractive as you get to know them. In reality the “attraction factor” depends on two things; a great first impression and a winning personality as the relationship deepens.
At a jam session I attended with a friend recently, a man came in who looked like he was down and out and could have been homeless. With an unkempt, long beard and hair, crooked teeth, baggy clothes, (it was dark so I couldn’t tell how clean they were), I probably would not have even looked at him, had it not been for my friend’s enthusiatic reception of him. Then he jumped up on the stage and began to play the guitar and sing. Amazed at his talent but shocked at the first impression he made, I did take the time to talk with him after the set. He was a wonderful, intelligent man.
In most cases, especially in a business situation, you would not have that second chance. Taking the time to present yourself in the best possible light, utilizing dress, grooming and language, is always worth the effort. Prospective employers, future friends or mates will be drawn to you rather than repelled.
I’ve heard people say that “If they don’t like me the way I am naturally, I don’t need them in my life”. That may be true in a perfect world. However, I am sure you will agree that we all have some prejudices where appearance is concerned. It does matter if we want that new client, that new job or a promotion.
Realistically, who would you choose if you were deciding to spend your hard earned money or were hiring for a position in your company. Think about the people you have met recently and what your first impression of them was. How did they look? Were they well groomed, just presentable or scruffy. How did they speak? Did they use correct grammar, slang or were they vulgar. Did they arrive early, just barely on time or were they late?
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that “Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you are saying”. I believe no truer words were ever spoken. If we want to move up in our careers, set an example for our children, show our friends and family how important they are to us, then we owe it to ourselves to take the time to present ourselves in the best possible light.
Have you ever set those New Year’s resolutions that after a week or two fall by the way side? What truly makes the difference between those that succeed and those that don’t? This year has been different for me. I believe that is because of the work I have been doing around the Law of Attraction and the Law of Allowing. I can see the changes I want to happen so clearly in my mind that they are manifesting in my life. One of my goals has always been (after having 3 kids) is to get back into phenomenal shape. One of my motivators currently is a trip to France in March visit my daughter. The other is to turn heads when I wear a bathing suit. Those have never been enough before however, because I could not visualize as clearly as I can today. Since Jan 20th I have been watching my diet like I have in the past and have broken through the blocks that have kept me above a certain weight for more than 15 years. The feeling of achievment is wonderful. The better I feel the faster the pounds seem to melt off. That being said it has also generated the desire to stay physically fit as well. So I have now incorporated yoga, cardio and weights into my daily regime.
Since the weight has been coming off the reactions of other people have been interesting. Comments about “You don’t want to get too thin” or “You don’t need to lose weight” make me laugh now because I realize that their comments are based on the fact that they have not been able to achieve what I am doing. My weight loss is not a criticism of them, merely something I have become passionate about and because of that am seeing results that I have never seen before. The comments used to bother me before because i took them personally. With the personal growth I have been doing, I accept that my reality is different than theirs and that I no longer have the desire to please them. What is most important is the personal guidance of my emotions… if I feel good then I will attract more of the same.
Imagine… you have just lost your job but you have decided that you are going to look at the positive aspects of it. “If I wanted to feel good about this, what would be good? Well… it opens the door to all sorts of possibilites, self employment, a new job that might be more interesting, some time off, maybe a trip to France to see my daughter” Already I am getting a bit excited! So needless to say my mood was great and stayed great UNTIL l RAN INTO SOME FRIENDS! They love me, truly they do. “Are you ok? What are you going to do without a steady income? You didn’t get any severance? You need to talk to someone about this!” I told them, I really was ok and excited about the possibilities!
Have you ever noticed that even when you say you are ok, and if they are coming from a place of fear, that fear is contagious. You may not notice the change in your energy right away, I didn’t. All I knew was, that I felt slightly uneasy after I left to go home. I took me an hour or so to realize that I had “bought into” their fear. So what do you do then?
Monitoring your emotions seems to be critical if you want the Law of Allowing to work. Noticing how you feel will determine whether you manifest great things in your life or not. As I said before if the results don’t change, then we have been focusing on the same old, same old. So.. I spent some time focusing on, “If I could feel good about this, what could be good.” I came up with another list of things that excited me and the fear dissipated. I guess it just takes being aware of what emotions you are feeling. So though it may take some conscious effort, the Law of Allowing is simple, once we decide to pay attention to how we feel emotionally on a daily or even an hourly basis.
